We parents always seem to be in a hurry. We want our babies to smile and coo…then later crawl and walk, and of course we can’t wait for them to talk. I’ll never forget when our youngest uttered the words “uh oh”, what I thought was the cutest phrase ever. But the adoration of her newest milestone wore off the first night, and it became the most annoying two syllables ever…until now. Fast forward a couple of years and we are hearing this 1,000 times a day from our almost three year old, “Why?”
It goes something like this….
Me: “Emy, please put on your shoes, it’s time to go.”
Me: “Because your feet will get dirty and it’s chilly.”
Me: “Because you have to wear shoes in the store. The sign says ‘no shoes, no shirt, no service.”
Me: “BECAUSE I SAID SO!”
Not the best response I know, but that’s a typical morning, noon, and night routine. At first I thought, “hmmmm I don’t remember our oldest being this inquisitive this young. Maybe she’s brilliant!” But then one morning I actually listened to what was happening on her favorite show Peppa Pig. George, the little cry baby pig, questioned his parents 892 times in five minutes. He asked “why?” over and over and over and over again….and it dawned on me, could this be where she was picking this curious habit up? (If you couldn’t tell, I’m not a fan of this show.)
All kidding aside, despite where she may have learned the question, our little Emylia is becoming a free thinker, and is starting to ask the definitions of words and how things work. So I took our budding problem to the Bundoo Community where I received this great advice from Dr. Sara Connolly, a Bundoo Pediatrician.
how to respond when your child incessantly asks why?
1. Look our children in the eye – As Dr. Connolly points out, the toddler is most likely seeking attention, and if we can get down to eye level and really listen, it might combat the behavior. With phones and other distractions we all need to try to be more present with our kids. It’s not easy, but necessary.
2. Practice and teach patience – It’s not always easy to slow down and answer every single question, so be patient. And when you can’t offer an answer, say something like, “One minute, mama is thinking and needs quiet while she thinks.” This not only will give parents a moment of much needed silence, but will also start teach patience in our children.
As with all phases, I know this too shall pass. (Quickly I hope!) But I love having the Bundoo Community to access great advice and opinions from physicians, behaviorists, and other parents. Also, be sure to check out my articles on their site!
Why? Because I said so!
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